>>> small steps, in any direction, lead to new understanding. That new understanding is the plan ... To see new things, experience new things, breathe new air.
The challenging experiences in our lives serve us. They allow us to know more and see more, and in those we are able to become more of who we truly are.
You are the one who decides. There isn't someone outside of you telling you, "you MUST progress in this EXACT way and if you don't you're a terrible bad person." There's just your own freedom to choose who you want to be and then either alignment with that or not.