Who you are, who you wish to be, what you admire in others ... these can all be the same! Just focus on those attributes which you think are beautiful, strong, and desirable, and then embrace them in your life. Cultivate them if you don't believe you currently have them. Look at the qualities in others and look for ways to integrate them into your own experience. You can be who you want to be. You can claim ANY beautiful qualities that you desire if you want to. Just choose who you want to be and then go for it. Become that person.