Who you are, who you wish to be, what you admire in others ... these can all be the same! Just focus on those attributes which you think are beautiful, strong, and desirable, and then embrace them in your life. Cultivate them if you don't believe you currently have them. Look at the qualities in others and look for ways to integrate them into your own experience. You can be who you want to be. You can claim ANY beautiful qualities that you desire if you want to. Just choose who you want to be and then go for it. Become that person.
I do not have it all figured out. I am the first person to admit that I know nothing. What I understand today WILL change. For sure. That is the ONLY thing I know. I understand that the pattern has been that I ask, and I receive and I'm open and things are WAY different than I suspected or thought but the greater understanding I receive actually makes WAY more sense than what my limited perspective was understanding and the NEW greater understanding is relieving and joyful and FULL of peace and freedom!
If you don't be the FIRST person to take care of yourself, who will do it for you? - You know when you're able to give and serve and you know when you need help or you need sleep or you're hungry or you're sad or whatever ... you know you best. Be your own protector. Be your own flame fanner. Be your own light giver. Be aware of the atmosphere within you so that when you're low you can pause and when you're bright you can move forward in inspiration.
Just choose. Choose what you want, set your desire, make your intention, and then do it. Make it happen. Aim for the target with purpose. It will be easier and easier as you keep moving toward that target. If it's a long term goal, keep moving forward. If it's a little "clean house" goal, keep moving forward. No matter the target, keep moving forward.
Definition of peace: a state of tranquility and quiet : freedom from disturbance : freedom from disquieting or oppressive thoughts or emotion : harmony in personal relationships : a quiet and calm state of mind : synonyms include - harmony, calm, quiet, serenity, tranquility, heartsease, contentment, ease, comfort, relief, solace, restfulness, stillness, fellowship, unity, connection, oneness, understanding, sweetness and light
What I know now is that my heart is one with all things, my energy is part of that universal wholeness and I can't change that fact. That means that what I DO can't change that fact, what I SAY can't change that fact, and what you think can't change that fact.
I could write paragraphs and pages and maybe even books about all the different scenarios and why it's unhelpful to dwell on them. I could explain over and over about how what we dwell on shapes and "creates" our world. I could go through explanations about energy and thoughts and the law of attraction and your ability and freedom to choose etc. etc. etc. ... I'm just going to give this simple "key" to peace that I have observed. ...
Take a leap. Take a step. Take even just a tiny baby "scootch" toward your goal. Every tiny step is still a step forward! Forward is movement. Movement is growth. Growth is relieving and joyful after all!
And do you know what I've learned because of seeing this pattern? It doesn't matter WHAT is happening outside of me, the peace and love for life and joy I embrace is mine no matter what comes. My soul determines how I respond to the life experiences that come. My thoughts are my choice.